Relationships & Character Chinese Idioms

Learn Chinese idioms about interpersonal relationships, social bonds, moral character, and behavioral patterns. These sayings illuminate human nature and the dynamics of human connections.

143 idioms in this category

不远千里

bù yuǎn qiān lǐ

Not consider a thousand miles far

Willingly travel far; make great efforts

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朝思暮想

zhāo sī mù xiǎng

Think in morning, yearn at night

Think about constantly; yearn for

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魂牵梦萦

hún qiān mèng yíng

Soul pulled, dreams haunted

Yearn day and night

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恋恋不舍

liàn liàn bù shě

Attached and unwilling to part

Be deeply reluctant to leave

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依依不舍

yī yī bù shě

Lingering reluctantly, unwilling to leave

Be reluctant to part

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难分难舍

nán fēn nán shě

Hard to part, hard to leave

Be inseparable; hate to part

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海枯石烂

hǎi kū shí làn

Seas dry, stones rot

Until the end of time; eternal love

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一见钟情

yī jiàn zhōng qíng

One glance, feelings concentrate

Love at first sight

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心心相印

xīn xīn xiāng yìn

Hearts imprint on each other

Be perfectly attuned to each other

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白头偕老

bái tóu xié lǎo

White heads together in old age

Grow old together; lifelong partnership

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举案齐眉

jǔ àn qí méi

Raise tray level with eyebrows

Married couple with great mutual respect

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相敬如宾

xiāng jìng rú bīn

Respect each other like guests

Treat each other with respect

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相濡以沫

xiāng rú yǐ mò

Moisten each other with foam

Help each other in adversity

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刎颈之交

wěn jǐng zhī jiāo

Friendship of severed necks

Be sworn friends; absolute loyalty

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莫逆之交

mò nì zhī jiāo

Friendship without opposition

Be bosom friends

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情投意合

qíng tóu yì hé

Feelings cast, ideas match

Be perfectly compatible; hit it off

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志同道合

zhì tóng dào hé

Same aspirations, aligned paths

Share the same goals and values

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推心置腹

tuī xīn zhì fù

Push heart, place in belly

Speak from the heart; confide completely

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肝胆相照

gān dǎn xiāng zhào

Livers and galls illuminate each other

Share complete trust and loyalty

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开诚布公

kāi chéng bù gōng

Open sincerity, spread fairness

Be candid and fair

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一言既出

yī yán jì chū

Once a word is spoken

A promise once made must be kept

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言行一致

yán xíng yī zhì

Words and actions consistent

Practice what you preach

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表里如一

biǎo lǐ rú yī

Outside and inside as one

Be consistent inside and out

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坦坦荡荡

tǎn tǎn dàng dàng

Open and broad-minded

Live openly with clear conscience

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光明磊落

guāng míng lěi luò

Bright, clear, and upright

Be open and aboveboard

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秋毫无犯

qiū háo wú fàn

Not violating even autumn down

Show strict discipline; not take anything

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愁眉苦脸

chóu méi kǔ liǎn

Worried brows, bitter face

Look worried and unhappy

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眉开眼笑

méi kāi yǎn xiào

Brows open, eyes smile

Be all smiles; radiate happiness

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眉飞色舞

méi fēi sè wǔ

Eyebrows fly, expression dances

Be animated with excitement

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喜笑颜开

xǐ xiào yán kāi

Happy smile, face opens up

Be beaming with joy

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怒不可遏

nù bù kě è

Anger that cannot be suppressed

Be furious beyond control

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喜怒无常

xǐ nù wú cháng

Joy and anger without constancy

Be moody; have unpredictable emotions

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妄自尊大

wàng zì zūn dà

Unreasonably consider oneself great

Be conceited; have an inflated ego

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妄自菲薄

wàng zì fěi bó

Unreasonably belittle oneself

Undervalue oneself; excessive self-deprecation

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趾高气扬

zhǐ gāo qì yáng

Toes high, spirits lifted

Strut arrogantly; be conceited

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颐指气使

yí zhǐ qì shǐ

Command with chin gestures and breath

Be domineering and arrogant

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沽名钓誉

gū míng diào yù

Fish for fame and angle for reputation

Seek fame through calculated actions

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恻隐之心

cè yǐn zhī xīn

Heart of compassionate concealment

Compassion; empathy for others

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赴汤蹈火

fù tāng dǎo huǒ

Go into boiling water step on fire

Go through fire and water; brave any danger

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妄自菲薄

wàng zì fěi bó

Wrongly self-deprecate

Underestimate oneself; excessive self-deprecation

This idiom describes wrongly (妄) depreciating (菲薄) oneself (自). It warns against excessive self-deprecation that undervalues one's abilities. The phra...

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言行一致

yán xíng yī zhì

Words and actions consistent

Practice what one preaches

This idiom describes words (言) and actions (行) being consistent (一致). It embodies the Confucian ideal of integrity where speech matches behavior. The ...

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同病相怜

tóng bìng xiāng lián

Same illness mutually sympathize

Sympathize with those sharing similar troubles

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相见恨晚

xiāng jiàn hèn wǎn

Meeting each other regret it was late

Regret not meeting sooner; instant rapport

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心心相印

xīn xīn xiāng yìn

Heart and heart mutually seal

Perfect mutual understanding; hearts in harmony

This idiom describes hearts (心心) mutually (相) sealing or imprinting upon (印) each other. It comes from Chan (Zen) Buddhism describing the wordless tra...

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目中无人

mù zhōng wú rén

No person in one's eyes

Extremely arrogant; look down on everyone

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平易近人

píng yì jìn rén

Level and easy to approach

Approachable; easy to get along with

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与众不同

yǔ zhòng bù tóng

Different from the crowd

Unique; distinctive

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痛改前非

tòng gǎi qián fēi

Painfully change previous wrongs

Sincerely repent and reform

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无微不至

wú wēi bù zhì

No detail not attended to

Meticulous; attentive to every detail

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信口开河

xìn kǒu kāi hé

Trust mouth open river

Talk irresponsibly; make things up

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大惊小怪

dà jīng xiǎo guài

Big surprise small strange

Make a fuss about nothing

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依依不舍

yī yī bù shě

Clinging and unwilling to part

Reluctant to part; lingering attachment

This idiom uses the reduplicated 'yiyi' (依依), meaning clinging or attached, combined with unwilling (不舍) to part. It describes the emotional difficult...

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一如既往

yī rú jì wǎng

Same as it has always been

As always; unchanged

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心照不宣

xīn zhào bù xuān

Hearts illuminate without declaring

Tacit understanding; unspoken agreement

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鞠躬尽瘁

jū gōng jìn cuì

Bow and exhaust oneself completely

Devote oneself completely; work until exhausted

This idiom describes bowing (鞠躬) while exhausting oneself completely (尽瘁). It comes from Zhuge Liang's famous memorial 'Chu Shi Biao,' where he pledge...

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变本加厉

biàn běn jiā lì

Change origin add severity

Get worse; intensify negatively

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若无其事

ruò wú qí shì

As if nothing happened

Act as if nothing happened

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视而不见

shì ér bù jiàn

Look but not see

Turn a blind eye; deliberately ignore

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言过其实

yán guò qí shí

Words exceed the reality

Exaggerate; overstate

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心甘情愿

xīn gān qíng yuàn

Heart sweet feeling willing

Willingly; without reluctance

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争论不休

zhēng lùn bù xiū

Arguing without rest

Argue endlessly without resolution

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一视同仁

yī shì tóng rén

One view same benevolence

Treat everyone equally without discrimination

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默默无闻

mò mò wú wén

Silently without fame

Unknown; working in obscurity

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无动于衷

wú dòng yú zhōng

No movement in the heart

Unmoved; indifferent

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滔滔不绝

tāo tāo bù jué

Surging waves never ceasing

Talk endlessly; speak at great length

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明知故犯

míng zhī gù fàn

Clearly know yet deliberately violate

Knowingly commit a violation

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自告奋勇

zì gào fèn yǒng

Self-recommend with vigor and courage

Volunteer bravely; step forward willingly

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形影不离

xíng yǐng bù lí

Body and shadow never separate

Inseparable; always together

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光明磊落

guāng míng lěi luò

Bright and open-hearted

Upright and open; above board

This idiom combines 'bright and luminous' (光明) with 'open and upright' (磊落) to describe someone of impeccable moral character. The character 磊 depicts...

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七嘴八舌

qī zuǐ bā shé

Seven mouths eight tongues

Everyone talking at once; lively discussion

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心平气和

xīn píng qì hé

Heart calm and breath harmonious

Calm and composed; even-tempered

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自以为是

zì yǐ wéi shì

Considering oneself to be right

Self-righteous; opinionated

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粗心大意

cū xīn dà yì

Rough heart and careless mind

Careless; negligent

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名副其实

míng fù qí shí

Name matches reality

Living up to one's name or reputation

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言而有信

yán ér yǒu xìn

Words with trustworthiness

To be true to one's word

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天长地久

tiān cháng dì jiǔ

Heaven is long, earth is lasting

Everlasting; eternal

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望穿秋水

wàng chuān qiū shuǐ

Gazing through autumn waters

To eagerly await someone or something

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急功近利

jí gōng jìn lì

Rush achievement near profit

Seek quick success and immediate benefit

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讳莫如深

huì mò rú shēn

Avoid discussing as deep

Maintain absolute silence about sensitive matter

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胡说八道

hú shuō bā dào

Reckless speak eight ways

Talk complete nonsense without any foundation

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虎踞龙盘

hǔ jù lóng pán

Tiger crouch dragon coil

Commanding imposing strategic position

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好好先生

hǎo hǎo xiān sheng

Good good mister

Person who agrees with everyone to avoid conflict

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害群之马

hài qún zhī mǎ

Harm herd's horse

Individual whose behavior harms entire group

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拐弯抹角

guǎi wān mò jiǎo

Turn corners wipe angles

Speak or act in deliberately indirect manner

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各抒己见

gè shū jǐ jiàn

Each express own view

Everyone freely express their own opinions

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负荆请罪

fù jīng qǐng zuì

Carry thorns request punishment

Sincerely admit fault and accept consequences

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飞蛾扑火

fēi é pū huǒ

Flying moth rushes fire

Be irresistibly drawn toward self-destruction

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恶贯满盈

è guàn mǎn yíng

Evil accumulated fully filled

Accumulated evil deeds ripe for punishment

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东张西望

dōng zhāng xī wàng

East stretch west gaze

Look around nervously or suspiciously

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丢三落四

diū sān là sì

Lose three drop four

Habitually forgetful and disorganized

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得寸进尺

dé cùn jìn chǐ

Gain inch advance foot

Take advantage by demanding increasingly more

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大公无私

dà gōng wú sī

Great public no private

Completely impartial without self-interest

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乘人之危

chéng rén zhī wēi

Ride person's danger

Exploit others during their vulnerability

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长话短说

cháng huà duǎn shuō

Long story briefly tell

Make a long story short

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侧目而视

cè mù ér shì

Side eye and look

Look askance with suspicion or disdain

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不择手段

bú zé shǒu duàn

Not choose methods

Use any means regardless of ethics

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不言而喻

bù yán ér yù

Not speak yet understood

Self-evident requiring no explanation

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不屑一顾

bù xiè yī gù

Not deign one glance

Disdainfully dismiss as beneath consideration

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门当户对

mén dāng hù duì

Door match household align

Match between families of similar social status

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乐于助人

lè yú zhù rén

Happy to help people

Find genuine pleasure in helping others

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待人热情

dài rén rè qíng

Treat people warmly

Treat others with genuine warmth and enthusiasm

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心地善良

xīn dì shàn liáng

Heart ground kind good

Fundamentally kind and virtuous character

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半面之交

bàn miàn zhī jiāo

Half-face acquaintance

Superficial acquaintance without depth

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爱毛反裘

ài máo fǎn qiú

Love fur turn inside-out fur coat

Honor one's teachers or humble origins

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自作聪明

zì zuò cōng míng

Self make cleverness

Too clever for one's own good

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众所周知

zhòng suǒ zhōu zhī

Everyone completely knows

As everyone knows or is widely recognized

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朝秦暮楚

zhāo qín mù chǔ

Morning Qin evening Chu

Constantly shifting loyalty for personal gain

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斩钉截铁

zhǎn dīng jié tiě

Chop nail cut iron

Decisively and firmly without hesitation

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总而言之

zǒng ér yán zhī

Altogether and speaking it

To sum up everything discussed

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冰清玉洁

bīng qīng yù jié

Ice clear jade pure

Impeccable moral character and integrity

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叶公好龙

yè gōng hào lóng

Lord Ye loves dragons

Professed love hiding actual fear

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指桑骂槐

zhǐ sāng mà huái

Point mulberry, curse locust tree

Indirect criticism of real target

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狐狸尾巴

hú li wěi ba

Fox's tail

True nature eventually revealed

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青梅竹马

qīng méi zhú mǎ

Green plums and bamboo horses

Childhood sweethearts or friends

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虚张声势

xū zhāng shēng shì

Empty show of strength

Bluffing with fake display

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过河拆桥

guò hé chāi qiáo

Cross river, dismantle bridge

Abandoning those who helped you

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顶礼膜拜

dǐng lǐ mó bài

Highest reverence and worship

Extreme adoration or worship

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难兄难弟

nán xiōng nán dì

Difficult elder and younger brothers

Companions united through shared hardship

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不卑不亢

bù bēi bù kàng

Neither humble nor proud

Maintain perfect dignified composure

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高山流水

gāo shān liú shuǐ

High mountain flowing water

Perfect artistic understanding between friends

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坐怀不乱

zuò huái bù luàn

Sit in lap not disorderly

Maintain perfect integrity despite temptation

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敬业乐群

jìng yè lè qún

Respect work enjoy community

Balance excellence with social harmony

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口是心非

kǒu shì xīn fēi

Mouth yes heart no

Words differ from thoughts

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言不由衷

yán bù yóu zhōng

Words not from heart

Speak without meaning it

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一诺千金

yī nuò qiān jīn

One promise thousand gold

Keep promises faithfully

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饮水思源

yǐn shuǐ sī yuán

Drink water think source

Remember your roots

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完璧归赵

wán bì guī zhào

Return jade to Zhao complete

Return something perfect

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倾盖如故

qīng gài rú gù

Tilt hat like old friends

Instant friendship

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雪中送炭

xuě zhōng sòng tàn

Send coal in snow

Help in time of need

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守正不阿

shǒu zhèng bù ē

Keep right no flattery

Keep integrity without compromise

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众志成城

zhòng zhì chéng chéng

Many wills make wall

Unity creates strength

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守口如瓶

shǒu kǒu rú píng

Guard mouth like bottle

Keep secrets well

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一言九鼎

yī yán jiǔ dǐng

Words heavy as nine cauldrons

Words carry great weight

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爱屋及乌

ài wū jí wū

Love house and its crow

Love extends to all connections

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守望相助

shǒu wàng xiāng zhù

Watch and help each other

Help and support each other

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狐假虎威

hú jiǎ hǔ wēi

Fox uses tiger's power

Borrow authority to intimidate

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春风化雨

chūn fēng huà yǔ

Spring wind becomes rain

Gentle, nurturing influence

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风雨同舟

fēng yǔ tóng zhōu

Share boat in wind and rain

Share hardships together

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同舟共济

tóng zhōu gòng jì

Cross river in same boat

Face challenges together

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以和为贵

yǐ hé wéi guì

Value harmony as precious

Value harmony above all

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海纳百川

hǎi nà bǎi chuān

Sea accepts hundred rivers

Accept all with open mind

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以心换心

yǐ xīn huàn xīn

Exchange heart for heart

Treat others as yourself

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一模一样

yī mú yī yàng

One mold one appearance

Exactly identical

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