10 Chinese Idioms to Impress Your In-Laws at Chinese New Year

Value harmony above all

Literal: Value harmony as precious

This descends from the Analects, where Master You says that in the working of ritual, harmony (和) is what is precious (贵) — 礼之用，和为贵. The claim is more careful than it looks: harmony is the point of the forms, but he adds at once that harmony pursued without the forms will not stand. Modern usage adv...

Stay humble and open

Literal: Empty heart like valley

The Daodejing describes the man of old as being, among other things, open as a valley. A chest (怀) held empty (虚) like (若) a valley (谷) takes in whatever comes down into it, and the emptiness is a capacity rather than a lack. Chinese moral vocabulary is consistent about this: the chest is where tole...

Remember your roots

Literal: Drink water think source

Yu Xin, writing in the sixth century, put it as 落其实者思其树，饮其流者怀其源 — who eats the fruit thinks of the tree, who drinks from the stream remembers its source. The four-character form keeps the second half: drink (饮) the water (水), think (思) of the source (源). It concerns debts owed rather than gratitude ...

Adopt the customs of where you are

Literal: Enter village follow customs

Enter (入) the district (乡), follow (随) its customs (俗). The older formulation, about entering a place and going by its rules, is in the Zhuangzi, and the four-character version is fixed in Chan collections. It is worth noticing what it does not say: nothing about approving of the customs, only about...

Keep promises faithfully

Literal: One promise thousand gold

Ji Bu of the early Han was reliable enough that a saying circulated in Chu: a hundred catties of gold are worth less than one promise (一诺) from Ji Bu — hence a promise worth a thousand (千) in gold (金). The Records of the Grand Historian preserves it. He is not Ji Zha of Wu, whose story about keeping...

Valuable, lasting advice

Literal: Gold and jade good words

Sound advice likened to gold (金) and jade (玉), the two materials Chinese tradition treats as both precious and enduring. Good words (良言) of this kind are not merely correct but worth keeping. 金石良言 is an equally established variant, substituting stone for jade — both forms are current, and neither is...

Humbly seek guidance

Literal: Move wine jar seek teaching

Moving (移) one's own wine cup (樽) across to where somebody is sitting, in order to receive (就) instruction (教). The gesture is the entire meaning: the person who wants to learn crosses the room, instead of summoning the teacher or waiting to be approached. Late imperial vernacular writing uses it of...

Learn from the worthy

Literal: See worthy wish equal

Confucius in the Analects: seeing (见) a worthy man (贤), think of (思) matching him (齐) — and seeing an unworthy one, turn inward and examine yourself. The second clause is normally left off and is the sharper half, since it makes every encounter instructive regardless of who you meet. What the phrase...

Balance excellence with social harmony

Literal: Respect work enjoy community

The Record of Learning in the Book of Rites lays out what a student should be examined on at each stage: after three years, whether he takes his studies seriously (敬业) and gets on with his fellows (乐群). The pairing is the point — competence and sociability are assessed together, and neither substitu...

Feel at ease with a clear conscience

Literal: Heart at peace, reason satisfied

The heart (心) at rest (安) because the reasoning (理) holds up (得). The two halves stand in a stated relation: the calm is not a temperament but a consequence, and it is available only to somebody who has actually checked. That is what makes the phrase useful, and also what makes it available for sarc...