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10 Chinese Idioms for Parents & Parenting

Wise Chinese idioms about parenting, raising children, and the parent-child relationship.

Parenting wisdom runs deep in Chinese culture. These idioms offer insights about raising children, the balance between nurturing and discipline, and the enduring bond between parents and children.

1

青出于蓝

qīng chū yú lán

Student surpasses master

Literal meaning: Blue comes from indigo plant

This idiom comes from a statement by Xunzi, noting that while blue (青) dye comes from (出于) the indigo plant (蓝), it surpasses its source in depth of color. The metaphor gained prominence during the Han Dynasty in discussions of education and generational progress. It celebrates how students can surp...

Example

The young researcher's innovations built upon and ultimately surpassed her mentor's original theories

这位年轻研究员的创新建立在导师理论基础之上,最终超越了原有理论

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百尺竿头

bǎi chǐ gān tóu

Achieve even greater success

Literal meaning: Hundred foot pole top

Emerging from Chan Buddhist teachings of the Tang Dynasty, this idiom depicts a person balanced atop a hundred-foot (百尺) pole (竿头). The image comes from a dialogue between Master Fengxue and his disciples about transcendence, suggesting that true achievement requires advancing even when you seem to ...

Example

Even after becoming CEO, she continued to study and improve

即使成为CEO后,她仍在不断学习提高

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3

春风化雨

chūn fēng huà yǔ

Gentle, nurturing influence

Literal meaning: Spring wind becomes rain

This poetic metaphor traces back to the Han Dynasty's educational philosophy, where ideal teaching was compared to spring winds (春风) transforming into nurturing rain (化雨). The imagery draws from agricultural wisdom – spring breezes and gentle rains nurture plants without forcing growth. Scholar Han ...

Example

The teacher's patient guidance slowly transformed the struggling student

老师耐心的引导慢慢改变了这个困难学生

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4

瓜熟蒂落

guā shú dì luò

Things happen when ready

Literal meaning: Melon ripe stem falls

This agricultural metaphor describes how a melon (瓜) naturally falls from its stem (蒂) when ripe (熟), originating from peasant wisdom during the Spring and Autumn period. Farmers observed that forcing a melon from the vine before its time yielded poor results, while patience produced perfectly ripen...

Example

The project succeeded because they waited for the right moment

项目成功是因为他们等待了适当的时机

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5

玉汝于成

yù rǔ yú chéng

Perfect through careful work

Literal meaning: Jade becomes perfect

Originally appearing in the Classic of Poetry, this idiom references the painstaking process of jade (玉) craftsmanship, where the stone becomes (成) perfected through careful work (汝). Ancient craftsmen observed that jade's true beauty emerged only through patient, deliberate cultivation. During the ...

Example

The artisan spent years perfecting his craftsmanship

这位工匠花了多年时间完善他的工艺

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6

见贤思齐

jiàn xián sī qí

Learn from the worthy

Literal meaning: See worthy wish equal

Derived from Confucius's Analects, this phrase encourages people who see (见) the worthy (贤) to wish (思) to equal (齐) them. It embodied the Confucian ideal of self-improvement through positive example. During the Han Dynasty, it became a cornerstone of educational philosophy, promoting active emulati...

Example

Reading about innovative leaders motivated her to enhance her skills

阅读创新领袖的事迹激励她提升自己的技能

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7

拔苗助长

bá miáo zhù zhǎng

Ruin through impatient intervention

Literal meaning: Pull seedlings help growth

This agricultural idiom describes the counterproductive action of pulling up (拔) seedlings (苗) to help (助) their growth (长), originating from Mencius's writings during the Warring States period. He recounted a story of an impatient farmer who, unsatisfied with his seedlings' slow growth, pulled them...

Example

The overanxious parent's excessive intervention harmed the child's natural development

过于焦虑的父母过度干预损害了孩子的自然发展

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8

青梅竹马

qīng méi zhú mǎ

Childhood sweethearts or friends

Literal meaning: Green plums and bamboo horses

This nostalgic idiom pairs green plums (青梅) with bamboo horses (竹马), originating from Tang Dynasty poet Li Bai's verse about childhood playmates. It described children gathering plums while riding makeshift hobby horses crafted from bamboo—a common children's game in ancient China. The specific imag...

Example

The couple had known each other since early childhood, playing together in their village

这对夫妇从小就认识,在村子里一起玩耍

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9

爱毛反裘

ài máo fǎn qiú

Honor one's teachers or humble origins

Literal meaning: Love fur turn inside-out fur coat

The Warring States period text 'Lü's Spring and Autumn Annals' introduces this image of loving fur (爱毛) so much that one turns a fur coat inside out (反裘) to examine its foundation. Han Dynasty scholars transformed it into a metaphor for valuing origins over appearances. In northern China, where fur ...

Example

Despite his formal training, he respected the folk traditions of his hometown artisans

尽管受过正规训练,他仍尊重家乡民间工匠的传统

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10

乐于助人

lè yú zhù rén

Find genuine pleasure in helping others

Literal meaning: Happy to help people

This phrase originated from Confucian ethical teachings in the Analects compiled around 500 BCE. The concept appears in Confucius' discussions of different motivations for virtuous action, with internal happiness representing the highest form. During the Han Dynasty, it became central to official as...

Example

The volunteer spent weekends helping elderly neighbors with home repairs

这位志愿者利用周末帮助年长邻居修缮房屋

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